Romantically Frustrated?

Submissive: inclined or ready to submit; unresistingly or humbly obedient: submissive servants. Basically, if she can get you to do whatever she wants you're a sub.And yes, this includes listening to her talking about other guys.

Well, just because its Feisei, I'll bite into answering this one.

If you don't want your emotions to be so obvious... just avoid her by playing FFXI the entire time she is in.... oh wait... nevermind.... you can't atm.

Nah, but in all seriousness... think about what you want. If you want to get back into this girl's life... you probably should start back as becoming a friend again. Regardless of how much you wanna just jump into a relationship... after having past issues, it would be best to take it slow... and maybe everything will work out for you in the end.

I'd hope Ovr gets the idea that you really don't like him even having contact with his crazy ex.

I deleted my ex off of urr'thang and while Abri would never ask me to do so, I did it for myself and for her.

I thought listening to her was just being nice.

Submissive: inclined or ready to submit; unresistingly or humbly obedient: submissive servants. Basically, if she can get you to do whatever she wants you're a sub.And yes, this includes listening to her talking about other guys.

I lol'd, but is it wrong for me to think that having lots of money is just a cheap standard that only makes the girl in question more secure about how things will turn out? I mean, Financial success is good and all, but can't they just settle for someone who has a fair income? For instance, My friend up the street is unemployed, but he's worked before and just not long ago he finished his training to be a truck driver. inb4 you've never tried, etc.

I hate gold-digging, which is a major turn-off for me, and I think it happens just about 80% of the time. As far as my situation is, I'm a tightwad with my money. I don't spend much, but I do have a job working with my parents' company which is currently getting a lot of good rep.

I'd hope Ovr gets the idea that you really don't like him even having contact with his crazy ex. I deleted my ex off of urr'thang and while Abri would never ask me to do so, I did it for myself and for her.

lol, funny how you pop up all of a sudden like every time i see you.

Id love to get back with her, but i *think* she has a bf in japan. Either way she will only be here for a month and then head back to japan unless it gets engulfed by the ocean(is it bad that i kind of sort of want this to happen?>.>). Back when we dated we always said things like "we can do our own things and after were done get back together in the future"(you get the jist, that was badly worded) since we both knew she was leaving for japan after the school year. I don't even know if she wants to have anything to do with me.

lol, funny how you pop up all of a sudden like every time i see you.

Id love to get back with her, but i *think* she has a bf in japan. Either way she will only be here for a month and then head back to japan unless it gets engulfed by the ocean(is it bad that i kind of sort of want this to happen?>.>). Back when we dated we always said things like "we can do our own things and after were done get back together in the future"(you get the jist, that was badly worded) since we both knew she was leaving for japan after the school year. I don't even know if she wants to have anything to do with me.

Bolded part is your problem right there, why would they need someone who is just "nice?"

Long post is long...

So I just got engaged, yay! It's the best thing that ever happened... but there's a *** face lurkin' in the background.

It's his ex (and I really mean ex, it's his first gf ever) and she just can't get a *** grip on the fact that he's with me. She used to call him and text him all the time asking him to go over to her house (the one she just bought with her new hubby), asking him what it is that I do all day while he's at work, is he sure I'm not cheating on him... basically just trying to paint me as some lying ***.

I told him that I wasn't really a fan of him talking to her since all she could do was trash talk me. I get that they remained friends after her broke up with her, and I'd be all cool with that if she wasn't always acting that way. He's friends with another girl that he used to date and we actually hang out with her and her fiancée sometimes, because she isn't always trying to make me out as a bad person. So, after telling him that I didn't like it, he deleted her from his phone, and stopped responding to her. So yay for like 3 months of not dealing with that.

Then he added her to his facebook.

She does the same ***now... messaging him asking all sorts of crap that's none of her business, and telling him she's heard ***about me and the bad things I've been doing behind his back. I understand that it's someone he was in a relationship with, there's a special kind of thing they have that will never go away. Like all of my exes were ***, but I still care enough about them to hope they're doing well. I can't figure out how to tell him to delete her without sounding like I'm some jealous ***.

tl;dr How can I tell my fiancée to get rid of his ex?

inb4 i'm somehow jealous

Like I said, if you run into her because she is with your friends, just try to keep it casual at least for a little while. As you said, you aren't even sure about her situation. Also, in this case, I'm gonna ask you... if you did get involved with her again, would you be willing to deal with her leaving again when she goes back to Japan? If the answer is no, then just keep it at friends regardless the situation.

Like I said, if you run into her because she is with your friends, just try to keep it casual at least for a little while. As you said, you aren't even sure about her situation. Also, in this case, I'm gonna ask you... if you did get involved with her again, would you be willing to deal with her leaving again when she goes back to Japan? If the answer is no, then just keep it at friends regardless the situation.

Bolded part is your problem right there, why would they need someone who is just "nice?"

Do you point out that she's basically trying to break you guys up?

Every gf i had left me for another guy, except one who just went AWOL. 1 of the guys pretended to be my friend just to steal her from me. Then proceeded to go so far as logging on her character and pretend to be her and tell me she wants me back then say "lol jk its 'insertdicknosehere'" Or tell me she died in a fire when she moved and had no internet for a few months. Basically, if you ever find someone there will always be someone there to take them from you. Unless you rich or hot.

Every gf i had left me for another guy, except one who just went AWOL. 1 of the guys pretended to be my friend just to steal her from me. Then proceeded to go so far as logging on her character and pretend to be her and tell me she wants me back then say "lol jk its 'insertdicknosehere'" Or tell me she died in a fire when she moved and had no internet for a few months. Basically, if you ever find someone there will always be someone there to take them from you. Unless you rich or hot.

It can be. I think it's like one of those things where a diagnosis is more of a you exhibit 8/13 of these symptoms type deal, you can have a few of them and still not be a sub.

Every gf i had left me for another guy, except one who just went AWOL. 1 of the guys pretended to be my friend just to steal her from me. Then proceeded to go so far as logging on her character and pretend to be her and tell me she wants me back then say "lol jk its 'insertdicknosehere'" Or tell me she died in a fire when she moved and had no internet for a few months. Basically, if you ever find someone there will always be someone there to take them from you. Unless you rich or hot.