Bahamut.Lolserj said:
how do you know if a girl is interested in you?
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Bahamut.Lolserj said: how do you know if a girl is interested in you? Bahamut.Lolserj said: i do kind of hate how some people know how to talk to women and i dont they always tend to be douchebags and they always seem to get the girls is there something about women and liking total *** Asura.Sandolphon said: Bahamut.Lolserj said: how do you know if a girl is interested in you? i actually laughed at something you said for once Asura.Chuuuuu said: Bahamut.Lolserj said: how do you know if a girl is interested in you? I can't say I've had success, but I always found it was best to be up front and honest about your feelings. I know its hard. I'm generally very shy, but you just have to decide what your feelings towards someone are. Are they worth going outside of your comfort zone? If the answer is yes, then just go for it. I'd rather swing and miss then just step back. zahrah said: /facepalm Really? Just really? How is it hard to talk to another sex? Sorry to sound insensitive, but it's something you have to do every single day. When trying to build a romantic relationship, you speak to people you are interested in just the same as any other person you meet. Sexual tension changes everything. If a guy has intention of something more than just "Talking" there is an entirely different line of processes going on, making sure you say the "Right" thing, while walking a line that varies from woman to woman, and hour by hour, between "Suave" and "Creep." Also, it's kind of hard to strike up a conversation without some common ground, this leads to two particular issues. One is that borderline stalker issue, but more realistically, especially when talking to people in these forums, our interest and tastes aren't exactly in a majority, and even when present, is usually under the surface, making the search for common, conversation-fertile ground, a little harder. Without that, the only other bait is physical attractiveness, and not everyone is blessed with their culture's ideal set of physical traits that one would consider "Hawt", I mean, not 200 years ago, being "Fat" (Not Morbid obese or something, but that didn't really exist until recently) was considered attractive and a sign of success. i had a problem where i guess a guy liked me and i didnt notice and when i got with someone else he went ape ***and still hates my guts forever but i lost a good friend lol gotta give girls better hints lol
zahrah said: /facepalm Really? Just really? How is it hard to talk to another sex? Sorry to sound insensitive, but it's something you have to do every single day. When trying to build a romantic relationship, you speak to people you are interested in just the same as any other person you meet. Sylph.Tigerwoods said: So there's this girl I know. I'm not good with hints or anything so I've no clue if she likes me as more than a friend or just as a friend. I would say something but we've been friends for a while and I don't want to make things awkward. That being said, I went against my better judgment and it actually worked out. Three months later things are fine, but I go drinking and accidentally hook up w/ her friend, who said she would keep it secret, but you know how that goes. I didn't mean to, I should have never drank, and I don't know how to fix this. And then... I whistled for a cab and when it came near The license plate said fresh and it had dice in the mirror If anything I can say is that this cab was rare But I thought 'Man forget it' - 'Yo home to Bel Air' Phoenix.Uzugami said: What you mean as a sub? o.o Asura.Chuuuuu said: i had a problem where i guess a guy liked me and i didnt notice and when i got with someone else he went ape ***and sill hates my guts forever but i lost a good friend lol gotta give girls better hints lol Asura.Chuuuuu said: i had a problem where i guess a guy liked me and i didnt notice and when i got with someone else he went ape ***and still hates my guts forever but i lost a good friend lol gotta give girls better hints lol or were you just oblivious! its really not that hard to tell most of the time :( Wafflechan said: I wanna vent something off my chest. I move around a lot, so the girls in my life come and go. I have so much time spent with them, but they just seem like obtacles inbetween my real goal. I've always wanted to tour, and show off my training and breeding skills as a pet owner, taking great pride at attempting to be the best, even as far as going to be a master. I also feel like my relationship with my best friend gets in the way with these girls as well. I mean, they go as far as calling me gay, but I'm just nervous that I can't juggle my career and her at the same time. I mean, my best friend has no problem talking to women, and it embarasses me. Why can't I do that? I mean, I have many women in and out of my life, and I can't make a move on any of them! Hopefully, as days go by, one thing I will know for sure... I'm gunna be a *** pokemon master. Sylph.Tigerwoods said: Asura.Chuuuuu said: i had a problem where i guess a guy liked me and i didnt notice and when i got with someone else he went ape ***and sill hates my guts forever but i lost a good friend lol gotta give girls better hints lol Asura.Matzilla said: srs yuna? lol Asura.Chuuuuu said: Sylph.Tigerwoods said: Asura.Chuuuuu said: i had a problem where i guess a guy liked me and i didnt notice and when i got with someone else he went ape ***and sill hates my guts forever but i lost a good friend lol gotta give girls better hints lol why would someone hate you for something like that sometimes i just don't get people Bahamut.Lolserj said: Asura.Chuuuuu said: Sylph.Tigerwoods said: Asura.Chuuuuu said: i had a problem where i guess a guy liked me and i didnt notice and when i got with someone else he went ape ***and sill hates my guts forever but i lost a good friend lol gotta give girls better hints lol why would someone hate you for something like that sometimes i just don't get people Serj said: zahrah said: /facepalm Really? Just really? How is it hard to talk to another sex? Sorry to sound insensitive, but it's something you have to do every single day. When trying to build a romantic relationship, you speak to people you are interested in just the same as any other person you meet. It's really, really hard. As a really shy guy, I assure you, it is really difficult. Nothing is a harder struggle than struggling with yourself. I was incredibly shy and anxious around people in High School to the point of miniature panic attacks. I still believe it was a completely mental thing. In college I was fine, and have been ever since. Bahamut.Lolserj said: zahrah said: /facepalm Really? Just really? How is it hard to talk to another sex? Sorry to sound insensitive, but it's something you have to do every single day. When trying to build a romantic relationship, you speak to people you are interested in just the same as any other person you meet. i went to an all guys highschool never was able to on a daily basis during my 4 years of highschool so now in college when i deal with it everyday i have trouble with it Okay...I can see this. This was the pivotal time in exploring relationships with the opposite sex. Fenrir.Nightfyre said: I'm having trouble coming up with a good definition but here's a shot at it. Ask yourself who would wear the pants in a relationship between yourself and one of your woman friends. If it's not you, you're probably a sub. Based off my other relationships, I do, I just have trouble approaching her, really. She has a BF now, and for a while she'd constantly call me at all hours telling me she thinks he's cheating on her, or he did this, etc or whatever, does that make me submissive? D: Asura.Chuuuuu said: Sylph.Tigerwoods said: Asura.Chuuuuu said: i had a problem where i guess a guy liked me and i didnt notice and when i got with someone else he went ape ***and sill hates my guts forever but i lost a good friend lol gotta give girls better hints lol Doesn't always go down like that but yea, it quickly becomes obvious when someone is just thinking of themselves "oh if you don't want to be with me, then I don't want to be your friend" Lol, what kind of bs logic is that? Leviathan.Niniann said: Phoenix.Uzugami said: Does always being tossed into that "close-friend" spot when I really like the girl in question, but she always tends to date horrible types of guys count? :< You probably come off too strongly as a sub. Girls don't like subs (not to be confused with girls don't like nice guys). ^^^ This!!! Bahamut.Lolserj said: Asura.Chuuuuu said: Sylph.Tigerwoods said: Asura.Chuuuuu said: i had a problem where i guess a guy liked me and i didnt notice and when i got with someone else he went ape ***and sill hates my guts forever but i lost a good friend lol gotta give girls better hints lol why would someone hate you for something like that sometimes i just don't get people Cuz he jelly, dur. It sucks being in a group of Like-minded friends, though, cause you wind up having the same taste in women, so it's almost competitive. And if something doesn't work out, there's that worst of situations where you ~could~ get with her, but you risk alienating your friends. That, in my opinion, is the worst feeling in the world. zahrah said: Bahamut.Lolserj said: zahrah said: /facepalm Really? Just really? How is it hard to talk to another sex? Sorry to sound insensitive, but it's something you have to do every single day. When trying to build a romantic relationship, you speak to people you are interested in just the same as any other person you meet. i went to an all guys highschool never was able to on a daily basis during my 4 years of highschool so now in college when i deal with it everyday i have trouble with it Okay...I can see this. This was the pivotal time in exploring relationships with the opposite sex. yeah and my mother who made me go there wonders why i don't have a girlfriend Obligatory
*** love confidence I'm happily in a relationship and very satisfied with it. But I can definitely understand having trouble talking to the opposite sex. It's very hard for me to talk to guys other than my husband unless I know them well, because I've had problems in the past when men thought I was flirting and I hadn't meant to come across as flirtatious at all.
It's especially hard in-game because guys seem to think I'm as pretty as my character (LOL) or are just used to most mithras being flirtatious. Because of that, I tend not to talk much to guys (especially not online) unless I already know them. Sylph.Tigerwoods said: Asura.Chuuuuu said: Sylph.Tigerwoods said: Asura.Chuuuuu said: i had a problem where i guess a guy liked me and i didnt notice and when i got with someone else he went ape ***and sill hates my guts forever but i lost a good friend lol gotta give girls better hints lol Doesn't always go down like that but yea, it quickly becomes obvious when someone is just thinking of themselves "oh if you don't want to be with me, then I don't want to be your friend" Lol, what kind of bs logic is that? Offline
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Leviathan.Niniann said: Bahamut.Dasva said: Leviathan.Niniann said: Phoenix.Uzugami said: Does always being tossed into that "close-friend" spot when I really like the girl in question, but she always tends to date horrible types of guys count? :< mmmm, Publix's are the best. Someone's from the south-east. They do make terrific subs, however =D Ifrit.Bloodbathboy
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Op, just hang in there. Plenty if fish in the sea.
Odin.Zicdeh said: Bahamut.Lolserj said: Asura.Chuuuuu said: Sylph.Tigerwoods said: Asura.Chuuuuu said: i had a problem where i guess a guy liked me and i didnt notice and when i got with someone else he went ape ***and sill hates my guts forever but i lost a good friend lol gotta give girls better hints lol why would someone hate you for something like that sometimes i just don't get people Cuz he jelly, dur. It sucks being in a group of Like-minded friends, though, cause you wind up having the same taste in women, so it's almost competitive. And if something doesn't work out, there's that worst of situations where you ~could~ get with her, but you risk alienating your friends. That, in my opinion, is the worst feeling in the world. my like-minded group is people who don't know how to talk to women though i asked a friend what i should do and he told me to break the ice by grabbing her boobs and that was his best answer he could give because he doesn't know how to talk to women either Bahamut.Dasva said: zahrah said: /facepalm Really? Just really? How is it hard to talk to another sex? Sorry to sound insensitive, but it's something you have to do every single day. When trying to build a romantic relationship, you speak to people you are interested in just the same as any other person you meet. Yes, it is. I didn't really get out of the aesthetic funk until after high school. I still had a boyfriend throughout high school though. Yea i'll bite...moreso because im sort of at a loss as what to do.
3 and 1/3 years ago I dated this japanese girl and things were great till she left to go back to japan(something I knew all along...mistake learned). Kept talking to her for a couple weeks after she had left and I was rather emo(my first love) about her not coming back for who knows how long. I tend to get upset when a girl I love breaks up with me and I cant have her anymore cuz I love with my whole heart. ***ended badly, I said alot of dumb things and we stopped talking for the past 3 years(also blocked me on fb) until... About a week before the japan earthquake/tsunami I thought it would be cool to see what she was up to so I sent her a email. A couple emails later ***hit the fan in japan and I learn shes coming back for a month since she cant really do anything since everything is shutdown pretty much(school, work, etc). Well of course a bunch of old emotions in me get stirred up and I just don't even know. The real kicker here is, my 2 best friends are still friends with her and have been keeping in touch with her. So im bound to run into her at some point shes here and i dont even know what ill do. |
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