Nausi said: »
My whole attitude is based in the understanding that people can become unattractive inside a marriage, I'm very clearly up front with how that change would affect me. This alone makes me reasonable.
It makes you honest. Let's not stretch that too far into the realms of reasonable though. Expecting eternal youth and/or being able to just swap out for a younger model without repercussion is above your pay grade if you've got time to post here.
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The delusional parties are the people who think that if they gain 50 pounds or their *** start looking like runny eggs nailed to a wall, their partners will not notice, out of some one sided obligation.
And this is why. What you're not understanding is there are, in fact, attraction factors that have nothing to do with physical appearance. I can say without hesitation that there are women who would probably sleep with me that are younger and more conventionally more attractive than my wife. However, they're also not my wife. There's more for attraction for me than just a pretty face and perky breasts.
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Wanting to be attracted to your partner is not the mark of a shallow person. It's absurd to think it is.
Wanting to be attracted to your partner is not the mark of a shallow person. Expecting your partner to constantly be conventionally attractive -- either through magic(or plastic surgery) and/or some sort of replacement program every decade -- is extremely shallow.
Which is what I was saying before. I think it's a bit...lame. But it's your choice if you want to feel like that. It's not wrong in any technical sense, but I think it's kind of shitty.