Bismarck.Josiahfk said:
when you say elegant do you mean more poised, more old fashioned or more sophisticated?
I mean that with regards to attitude, so poised is definitely the right word to use there. Dress sense would be nice too. Not to dress in this ordinary fashion which begs for drooling male attention. Being sophisticated is definitely attractive too.
Fenrir.Niniann said:
Fenrir.Tsuji said:
That also applies to the alpha and beta discussion posted in this thread. What might seem like an alpha person might be more beta, but also vice versa.
I've already stated that that there's a correlation between attitude and alpha/beta-ness, but it doesn't define it. Everyone is different, and are varying degrees of being an alpha/beta... but honestly it's a part of everyone.
Glad we agree! :)
Fenrir.Niniann said:
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Everyone has their softer spots and their more assertive moments.
This doesn't really count towards what would be considered their core personality. If someone is submissive all of the time, and they stand up for someone once in their life, it doesn't make them assertive, it just means they care for that person. If that makes sense. Unless you've radically changed your personality because of some trigger, you're going to be more or less the same all the time.
Very true, to at least a degree. Core personalities remain the same overtime, there is research that indicates as such I am sure. But people mature and change as well, and that is where my statement comes from. It's in knowing this that I hate slotting people in simple social categories of any kind. It's far too general and simplistic when you know that there is always more than meets the eye.
But with core personalities, I would argue that personalities are often deep and complex and can often surprise you in ways that you might not expect. But then I should also say that that might not happen at all either. It depends on the person, but I think you understand where I am getting at. It's on that which I say that I am careful when it comes to relationships or seeking out a partner. If you wish to find out the most persistent and adaptive traits in someone's personality, you need to spend a considerable amount of time with that person. At least, that's what I've learned over the years.
