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 Bismarck.Narshee
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By Bismarck.Narshee 2013-01-21 14:50:32
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Maybe she's scared to leave? D: idk ;;
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By Carbuncle.Skulloneix 2013-01-21 14:51:49
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By Asura.Bluespoons 2013-01-21 14:52:41
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The best in this situation is just hoping he doesn't actually kill her.

Why the *** a guy thinks it's his place to put hands on a woman is *** beyond me.

The shitty part is I'm so so so pissed off at her right now that I don't even feel bad for her. Like at this point I'm just like "yeah well you deserve it for staying" and the fact that I feel that way pisses me off more ><

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By Asura.Vyre 2013-01-21 14:52:50
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Asura.Schizm said: »
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Of course, now do Morning Star or Mace versus armor like that :P Knights had way more utilities.
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By Bismarck.Misao 2013-01-21 14:52:59
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feels like this guy is emotionally manipulating her, and seems to be dominating and possessive ?
:/ sounds bad.
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By Bismarck.Dreadnot 2013-01-21 14:54:02
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Valefor.Sehachan said: »
@Spoons: I would assume she refuses to accept he's as bad as the others after having been emotionally damaged so much already. Like she's holding onto the hope rather than the relationship itself.

Maybe.


I agree with this. It's just like my sister. She clings to trash. She has 3 kids (from 3 different guys) 1 is in jail, 1 moved away, 1 is a drug dealer, she'll be having a 4th kid in a couple months from a guy to smokes pot all day long, steals her money, and won't get a job.

There's nothing you can do about it. She's been beaten, raped, jailed.. all for these guys, and she keeps DOING it. Over and over. She's 31 btw. I tried to help my sister for 10 years and I finally gave up and I really just don't care anymore.
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By Jetackuu 2013-01-21 14:54:22
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@Spoons: you could possibly see if a judge will order her a psych evaluation, but it's very unlikely.
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By Asura.Vyre 2013-01-21 14:54:33
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Asura.Bluespoons said: »
The best in this situation is just hoping he doesn't actually kill her.

Why the *** a guy thinks it's his place to put hands on a woman is *** beyond me.

The shitty part is I'm so so so pissed off at her right now that I don't even feel bad for her. Like at this point I'm just like "yeah well you deserve it for staying" and the fact that I feel that way pisses me off more ><

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Quickly, birth Samson so he can smite her Phillistine Boyfriend!
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By Asura.Bluespoons 2013-01-21 14:55:27
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I guess I should just let it go. I'm 900 miles away, which really sucks because I can't even really be there for her when she needs me. We were never close at all growing up and we still aren't, maybe I should just keep on with the distant relationship and drop it?
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By Ramuh.Urial 2013-01-21 14:55:38
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Asura.Bluespoons said: »
The best in this situation is just hoping he doesn't actually kill her.

Why the *** a guy thinks it's his place to put hands on a woman is *** beyond me.

The shitty part is I'm so so so pissed off at her right now that I don't even feel bad for her. Like at this point I'm just like "yeah well you deserve it for staying" and the fact that I feel that way pisses me off more ><

kjadsklfja;dklsfjal;sdkfj srsly
This may sound cynical but if someone doens't learn better then it's their own fault they get *** over.
If that happens well it's no ones fault but their own.
Happens once in a marriage, okay thats bad family helps out.
Happens again and you're oblivious, no you're partially responsible at this point.
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By Caitsith.Zahrah 2013-01-21 14:56:06
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Asura.Bluespoons said: »
The best in this situation is just hoping he doesn't actually kill her.

Why the *** a guy thinks it's his place to put hands on a woman is *** beyond me.

The shitty part is I'm so so so pissed off at her right now that I don't even feel bad for her. Like at this point I'm just like "yeah well you deserve it for staying" and the fact that I feel that way pisses me off more ><

kjadsklfja;dklsfjal;sdkfj srsly

Why does she continually date the same "kind" of guy? Dating is trial and error, but geez! There's a pattern there.
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By Valefor.Sehachan 2013-01-21 14:56:45
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To go more in depth...
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By Bismarck.Narshee 2013-01-21 14:56:46
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Nothing you can really do about it :/ She has to wise up on her own.. if you tried to get in the middle of it, it might backfire and her end up hating you.
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By Siren.Kalilla 2013-01-21 14:57:23
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Asura.Bluespoons said: »
She has to be the one that wants to see the truth, and if she feels its worth losing you for him then I don't see any way to change her mind about it.

You did basically give her an ultimatum, which I felt should have worked but she is holding her ground standing by him. I still feel like you should help her, but she has to be the one that wants to leave.
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By Ramuh.Urial 2013-01-21 14:58:19
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In short, girls are stupid when it comes to love.
/conversation over
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By Asura.Bluespoons 2013-01-21 14:58:19
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She's never been alone, which is part of the issue. She went straight from living with our parents to running away (she dropped out our senior year and we didn't hear from til 2 years later.) with some *** that she left for another guy. After that, she went to another guy, another, another. She would see they were trash and she'd dump them. She was never single for more than a week.

I think part of her issue is having her friends and family be right. We've told her people are trash and she refuses to hear it til she gets beat on. She's scared to be alone and she's scared to be wrong.
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By Caitsith.Zahrah 2013-01-21 14:58:55
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Ramuh.Urial said: »
Asura.Bluespoons said: »
The best in this situation is just hoping he doesn't actually kill her.

Why the *** a guy thinks it's his place to put hands on a woman is *** beyond me.

The shitty part is I'm so so so pissed off at her right now that I don't even feel bad for her. Like at this point I'm just like "yeah well you deserve it for staying" and the fact that I feel that way pisses me off more ><

kjadsklfja;dklsfjal;sdkfj srsly
This may sound cynical but if someone doens't learn better then it's their own fault they get *** over.
If that happens well it's no ones fault but their own.
Happens once in a marriage, okay thats bad family helps out.
Happens again and you're oblivious, no you're partially responsible at this point.

I had a roommate in college who's BF beat her senseless on our front porch then camped down the street in his car waiting for us to go to class and/or work when she would be alone.

We took her to file a restraining order. She didn't do it. Then she went back to him two weeks later. Some people are just masochists. Sad.
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By Bismarck.Leonkasai 2013-01-21 14:59:18
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Asura.Vyre said: »
Of course, now do Morning Star or Mace versus armor like that :P Knights had way more utilities.
But if you go down that road, you need to test the bows and arrows used by samurai, too, and the polearms used by each. :I
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By Bismarck.Narshee 2013-01-21 14:59:50
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I'll beat him up. I've been working out.
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By Asura.Bluespoons 2013-01-21 15:00:27
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ugh, Narsh, my hero <3
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By Valefor.Sehachan 2013-01-21 15:01:32
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It's not a matter of intelligence anyway...some people have psychological problems and those can be beyond self-control.
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By Odin.Headstrong 2013-01-21 15:01:35
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Ramuh.Urial said: »
In short, girls are stupid when it comes to love.
/conversation over
Yeah because guys never have bad relationships .-. Just easier for a guy to beat up a female than the other way around
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By Asura.Bluespoons 2013-01-21 15:02:23
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Suppose I'll just leave it alone. I'll stand by what I said, I'll have nothing to do with her. She's family, my sister, so I do feel like it's my problem too, but worrying about her when she isn't going to change is just gonna give me an ulcer and make my baby a spaz... more of a spaz...

Thanks for the help guys, you really did make me feel better.
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By Caitsith.Zahrah 2013-01-21 15:04:55
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Valefor.Sehachan said: »
It's not a matter of intelligence anyway...some people have psychological problems and those can be beyond self-control.

They like to be the perpetual victim rather than nut up? Like I said, some people are just masochists, or they love the attention they get from being in constant danger and the comfort they receive from their peers. Yes, that is a psychological problem.
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By Siren.Kalilla 2013-01-21 15:05:57
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Some people are just fking crazy. I don't understand what frame of mind you'd have to be in to beat the person you love out of anger.

I just don't get it.
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By Ramuh.Urial 2013-01-21 15:06:12
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Odin.Headstrong said: »
Ramuh.Urial said: »
In short, girls are stupid when it comes to love.
/conversation over
Yeah because guys never have bad relationships .-. Just easier for a guy to beat up a female than the other way around
I'm not saying guys don't.
And you're exactly right.
It is harder, so if a dude does get beat up by a chick, most of the time they end it.

It's just two different rationals for staying in a relationship.

Girls will stay in a physically abusive relationship because "He does love me."

Guys on the other hand will stay in emotionally abusive relationships because "Doesn't matter had sex."

Neither are smart.
But thats not love at that point.
Girls literally turn stupid when they think someone is in love with them most of the time. It's disgusting seeing a 25-35 year old woman act like a 15 year old, but they do it.
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By Odin.Headstrong 2013-01-21 15:06:51
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Caitsith.Zahrah said: »
Valefor.Sehachan said: »
It's not a matter of intelligence anyway...some people have psychological problems and those can be beyond self-control.

They like to be the perpetual victim rather than nut up? Like I said, some people are just masochists, or they love the attention they get from being in constant danger and the comfort they receive from their peers. Yes, that is a psychological problem.
Well some people honestly believe they don't deserve any better or wouldn't be able to get anything better :/ Or got so used to it that they actually think it's normal.. but hey he can be sweet too.. he must really love me
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